Why the most overlooked years in education are actually the most urgent—and promising—place to focus systems-level change.
Do you remember your experience in middle school? Like most people, it was formative for me. I remember awkward conversations with peers about shaving our legs and awkward moments like starting my period (which for some reason still seems to be a taboo subject). I also remember being the last person named on the basketball team, making the track team, and being inspired by a 7th grade English teacher who took an interest in me and told me I was a good writer. Fast forward and I was a first generation college student only because I had a scholarship to play basketball, and I became an English teacher. I met my husband who played on the collegiate men’s team and was a college basketball coach. We moved 10 times in 17 years, and I got exposed to a variety of school systems; I eventually became an author, a consultant and then an entrepreneur. It all started in middle school.
My beautiful, intelligent, gregarious sister was in 6th grade when I was in 8th grade, and middle school was formative for her, too. She got ridiculed for her curious questions in class and her creative way of dressing. We were poor, and she was doing the best she could. She felt lonely and isolated and had a hard time making friends. No teacher noticed her gifts or took an interest in her. Her creativity was stifled in rigid, teacher-directed classrooms with no space to explore. She grew apathetic out of self-preservation. (It feels better to “not care” when you don’t have hope.) She finally connected to some other “misfits” and began experimenting with drugs. She dropped out of high school to have a baby. She battled addiction for 35 years. She is finally in recovery and has courageously worked to repair damaged relationships and start her life over in the last five years. It all started in middle school.
We’ve labeled this phase as “middle”—a passage, a warm-up, a bridge between elementary and high school. But that label is a myth. And it’s holding us back from changing lives at the moment when change is not only possible, but critical.
Why Middle School Matters
Major Trajectory Shifts Happen in Middle School
Middle school is more than a transitional phase. It’s the moment where the trajectory of a child’s life can shift dramatically.
Research shows that students who are chronically absent in middle school are far more likely to drop out of high school. But the danger signs go beyond attendance and test scores. They show up in subtle but devastating ways: when students start to believe they don’t belong in school. When they stop believing anyone sees them. When they silently internalize that no one expects them to succeed.
This is the point in a child’s life when belief—in themselves, in their future, in school itself—is either built or broken. And the truth is: we’re seeing too many students whose hope for the future is completely broken down.
Developmental Crossroads: Why This Age Demands More
Middle schoolers are not just small high schoolers. They have completely unique needs at this age. After years of being nurtured primarily by a few caring adults and a small group of peers in their grade level, 6th graders are typically thrust into a much larger school filled with changing classes and teachers. Due to the shift in schedules, they have less time to bond with their peers and teachers . All this, while also navigating extraordinary developmental change:
- Massive neuronal growth spurts rewiring how they think.
- Onset of puberty with intensifying emotional regulation challenges.
- Social belonging becoming the foundation of motivation.
This is when the world starts to tell them who they are. If school isn’t a place that tells them they are capable, worthy, and valued, they’ll find that identity somewhere else—often in places that reinforce disengagement, defiance, or despair.
What’s formed in these years—habits, relationships, mindsets—sticks. And that’s why we cannot afford to wait until high school to intervene.
What Needs to Change (and Why Status Quo Isn't Working)
Too often, middle school systems are designed for content coverage and behavior management, not connection. Teachers see 100+ students a day, fragmenting relationships, and class schedules prioritize logistics over trust and belonging. And with mounting pressure to produce test scores, teachers are forced to choose between covering curriculum and cultivating connection. Spend time at any struggling middle school and it’s obvious which one is winning.
And yet, scholarly research has been telling us for decades that connection is the most powerful driver of engagement, achievement, and behavior. Especially in adolescence. The danger isn’t just that we’re missing an opportunity. It’s that we’re creating risk.
For every student who drifts through these years without being seen, the long-term consequences multiply—academically, emotionally, and socially.
A Framework That Rebuilds Trust, Belief, and Belonging
Through the course of numerous deep partnerships with hundreds of school districts across the country, engage2learn has developed a Middle School Transformation Framework to offer struggling schools a systemic, sustainable way to rebuild what matters most—relationships, belief, and purpose—for both students and educators.
It’s built on five foundational levers that research confirms are most critical in these years of identity formation and emotional development. Each lever targets a high-impact area that directly addresses the barriers middle schoolers and their teachers face every day—disconnection, inconsistency, and low expectations—and replaces them with systems of trust, clarity, and growth.
1. Positive Teacher-Student Relationships
In middle school, the need to feel seen isn’t optional—it’s essential. Relationships are the single most powerful in-school influence on student behavior, motivation, and even academic success. A 70-year meta-analysis found that strong teacher-student relationships significantly impact everything from achievement to mental health.
But in middle schools, the structure itself can work against connection. Teachers see 100+ students a day; students rotate classes every 45 minutes, making schools great at moving students around the school building, but not into deep relationships with caring adults. It is not enough to greet each student at the door. Without intentional systems for authentic relationship-building—like daily check-ins, learner profiles, student goal-setting, and small group instruction—many students simply get lost. This lever ensures that connection isn’t left to chance. It makes belonging a design principle, not an afterthought.
2. Leadership & Pedagogy Development
A school’s instructional culture rises or falls with its leadership. But too often, professional learning is inconsistent, compliance-focused, or disconnected from actual daily instructional practice. This lever centers on coaching and leadership systems that help every teacher grow in alignment with daily practices that are matched to the needs of middle school students.
The research is clear: Collective Teacher Efficacy—the belief that educators, together, can impact learning—is the highest-leverage factor for student achievement (Hattie, d = 1.57). But efficacy doesn’t happen by accident. It requires leaders to model instructional expectations, provide real-time feedback, and create a culture where teachers support one another in meaningful, job-embedded ways. When leadership is aligned and pedagogy is supported, improvement becomes a shared effort, not an individual burden.
3. Culture of High Expectations
Adolescents become what we reflect back to them. If they sense we’ve given up on them—or worse, never believed in them at all—they disengage. While teachers enter the profession with an inherent belief that every student can learn and the confidence that they can make a difference, the harsh reality of the challenges at this stage can cause educators to subconsciously focus more and more on the students who they feel more equipped to reach sending an unintentional message to the more challenging students. Or teachers can become more and more rigid and teacher-directed, sending the message that I don’t trust you to control your own behavior or you are not capable of making your own decisions, and therefore, you can only act, speak, or think in response to my prompting. This lever focuses on replacing the “these students can’t do that” and monitoring compliance mindset with a culture where every student is expected to grow, every teacher has the systems and skills to support that growth and the time and opportunity to intentionally express that belief in their students’ success.
The danger isn’t just low expectations—it’s inconsistent expectations, which create inequity and confusion. Leaders should be at the forefront of ensuring that belief in student agency is not a matter of personality or preference but is visible in daily practice—from student-led goal setting to consistent use of scaffolded learning and feedback routines. When expectations are clear and support is equitable, students begin to internalize a different narrative about who they are and what they’re capable of becoming.
4. Student Agency & Engagement
Middle schoolers are wired for autonomy and meaning. When they feel ownership over their learning and their life, their engagement increases dramatically. This lever builds systems for cultivating voice, choice, and relevance in the classroom—empowering students to set goals, track progress, and reflect on their growth. Providing students the opportunity to have input and provide feedback on their learning and school experiences creates agency and better decision-making.
Research shows that agency increases motivation, deepens learning, and reduces behavior issues. More importantly, it helps students develop the skills they need to lead their own lives. This isn’t about free choice or unstructured environments; it’s about scaffolded opportunities to practice ownership within a supportive framework. And, maybe more importantly, it is about not stifling student voices and motivation with rigid standardization and coercive control that is a direct assault on what adolescents desperately need. When students feel like school is happening with them, not to them, everything changes.
5. Scalable Support Systems
Great teaching and strong culture don’t scale without strong systems. This lever focuses on the infrastructure—data routines, scaffolded student supports, coaching/support systems for teachers, PLC structures, and aligned tools—that make growth possible, sustainable, and resilient for educators and learners.
The reality is, even the most passionate teachers burn out if they’re asked to operate in a system that doesn’t support their work. And even the best strategies fall flat if they aren’t implemented consistently. Support systems that aren’t dependent on a few dedicated and talented individuals, but are part of the school’s DNA make transformation enduring, not just inspirational.
It’s Time to Reject Compliance Culture—and Reclaim Joy
For too long, we’ve asked educators to implement piecemeal solutions, layering on programs, initiatives, and expectations without ever addressing the root issue: the system isn’t built for connection.
Simply put: compliance-driven cultures and siloed interventions do not transform schools. They burn out teachers, frustrate leaders, and push students further away from the joy of learning.
We want to support leaders in offering a different path—one that’s holistic, intentional, and rooted in relationships.
Yes, it leads to academic gains.
In fact, it leads to outsized achievement, higher engagement and therefore improvements in discipline, higher attendance and even significant gains in teacher retention. We’ve proven that again and again. But more importantly, it brings life back into classrooms and helps teachers reclaim the joy and passion behind why they entered the profession in the first place.
If your school or district is passionate about building thriving middle schools centered on trusted relationships and belief in student success, we’d love to help support you in achieving that goal!
Give us 18 months as your partner, and together we will change the trajectories of thousands of lives. It all starts in middle school.
